My Hot Anniversary

        Today is my 15 year wedding anniversary.  Wow! It hardly seems real!  Some days I think about my life and it seems as if I've been acting in an extended play about the game of life.  I mean really, how did I end up with 5 kids?  Yes, there's the obvious reasons why, and they don't really involve birds and bees but something more intricate and mysterious than the wild life channel.  And more miraculous than that, I woke up today feeling young and refreshed, alive and thriving.
       How do two young people, fresh from high school and hormones survive 15 years of marriage?  Why is it that I still want to please him with what I wear, how I style my hair?  Why does it matter to me that the fragrance I choose or the jewelry that I use is in line with his desires?  I'm not going to lie, I love to get dressed just for me.  You can't live every day for somebody else without getting bored or resentful.  Some days are "Me" days.  But today, my anniversary, I want him to be pleased. Well pleased.
       Unfortunately, today felt like fire in the wind.  It was 90 degrees of hot steamy hot, not sexy hot.  So how do you dress beautiful, yet remain cool, keeping in mind that my car's air conditioner doesn't work.  So whatever I wear better remain attractive after perspiration is applied.
        My first choice was a beautiful black beach dress that I haven't worn for years.  It was too small. For many years, I've tried to put on weight attempting to be what I thought I ought to be, (a black woman with curves to spare) but I couldn't ever achieve my ideal goals.  God made me who I am and he allowed plenty of frustration in the process of me trying to change that.  This past year I just finally gave up and decided I was fine being black barbie or to some, Olive oil from Popeye.  I believe one of the keys to a successful marriage is accepting who you are.  When you accept who you are, you'll accept your spouse for who they are.  That was just a side note.
        Well, the black dress didn't work out.  It finally fit, but the zipper was damaged and it was quite a disappointment.  Later on I found out it was a blessing in disguise.  I went through my drawers and closets, pulled out another black blouse and skirt combo and quickly realized I was going to melt away before I stepped foot out of the house.  Time was running out and it dawned on me that I had a frilly white skirt both light weight, elegant, and sexy, which would go great with a white tank-top from GAP.  I had recently bought a purple feather earring and necklace combo that would've complimented the black dress just perfectly.  With reluctance, I put it on with the white ensemble and didn't feel that same pleasure.  But time was ticking away.  I applied make up (frost, purple, and green), and my purple turtle ring, purple nail polish, and it surprisingly came all together.  When I presented myself to my husband on our Anniversary, he didn't get a tired mommy of 5 children but a woman young, refreshed, alive and thriving.

F.Y.I.  Just because life hands you a quiver full of responsibilities, and a life time commitment to live up to, doesn't mean you have to look like you're carrying the weight of the world.
       1.  Don't dress like a mom on your anniversary
       2.  Sexy still applies after 15 years
       3.  You're only as young as you think you are
       4.  Don't let the weather keep you from looking amazing.  

photography by:  my baby girl, Savanna

purple feather jewelry 1.50$

1.00$ tank top

5.00$ purse from flee market
5.00$ sunglasses from NY
Photo by: Letriah Masters

Savanna's favorite pic
mine too.
Good job, baby girl.